Yikes! I haven't written a blog post since August 12. I have done so much I can't even remember everything, but I will share the things I do remember.
1. To begin, readers of this blog know that I keep my personal life quite public; however, I don't share much about my relationship life. Dating as a widower is quite complicated. Whoever you meet comes with a history, a life, a lived experience complete with family and friends. When you date at 60 or at any other age, you will find that you are either living in your partner's world or they are living in your world. The trick is: to build a world together with shared experiences, friends, and family. I have found there are lots of beautiful people who desire a relationship. They want someone to talk to, someone to share experiences with, someone to share ideas, someone who will allow you to grow wiser, and someone who will love you for who you are. I have been in 4 longer term relationships in the last 5 years. All of the ladies I dated were wonderful people and when relationships ended, I was heartbroken because you build memories together. You meet their family and friends. When the relationship ends, the memories of time spent together can be painful to recall. For the most part, the connections made in the relationship are severed and you have to move on. We were all good people. No one was wrong. There are just people who are wrong for one another so the relationship ends and you move on. It's hard.
So where am I now in my relationship life? Well, I am in a wonderful relationship with another wonderful lady and things are going very well. Her name is Linda. In the last 8 months we have cross country skied, kayaked, danced in the kitchen, shared fine food, hiked, biked, swam, golfed, and built great memories.
2. Last weekend, Linda and I traveled to Oakville, Ontario to visit her sister's family. I had a chance to visit my old high school buddy, Brian Hartzell, and his wife, Carole. I also had the chance to visit another old buddy of mine, Earl Berkan. Linda and I went to a Monet display at The Toronto Convention Center and spent a day in Niagra On the Lake where we did some wine tasting.
3. On the Labor Day Weekend, Linda and I attended at 50th wedding anniversary for her brother in Edmonton.
4. August weekends were mostly spent at the lake with the exception of August 22-23 when I was playing in the provincial slow pitch tournament for 60+ players. The camper is all closed up and winterized for the season.
5. I am already finished my first month of hockey. Over the years, I have been blessed to have good health and no major aches and pains. Unfortunately, that streak ended in August when I pulled a hamstring playing ball. Adding to the misery, I twisted my knee in hockey two weeks ago. The good news is I am slowly getting better.
6. Luvisa and Gunnar continue to be the apples of my eye. Luvisa started Ukrainian dance and preschool in September. Gunnar turned 4 months old on October 2. He is a handsome little guy who warms my heart every time he smiles at me.
7. Mary is enjoying a year of maternity leave. She continues to be an amazing daughter, wife to Morgan, and mother to Gunnar and Luvisa.
8. Haley has started a blog detailing her struggles with infertility. The blog is titled "icingandanimalcookies". The blog is very well written and heart wrenching to read. I am very proud of her courage and wisdom. Writing the blog has been cathartic and healing for Haley. Definitely a good read.
As always, I am blessed and trying to be the best version of myself living the best life I am able to live.
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